The Five Love Languages

Ernie and I read this book a couple of years ago. We were both trying to understand each other better. This book describes the five love languages in detail. It explains that you might think you are showing your love to your spouse, but he/she might not be receiving it because you are not speaking in his/her love language. Until we took Terra's The Way They Learn class at the mini conference, I had never thought about what the kids love language is. So, on the way home we asked the kids what their Daddy and I do that makes them feel the most loved. Or when do they feel the most loved by us. The choices were: quality time(doing something together as a family), gifts(receiving presents), words of affirmation(being told good job or we are proud of you), physical touch(hugs, cuddling) or acts of service(doing things for them). Both of the kids were quick to say quality time is the most important thing to them. It is also my love language. I feel the most loved when I am spending time with the people that mean the most to me. When Ernie and I were newlyweds that was one thing that we argued about a lot. Quality time is not his love language, so he did not understand when I would scream and cry and tell him "you never spend time with me"! I didn't want gifts, I just wanted time. I think it makes it easier to meet the kids love language since it is the same as mine. I want to make memories and take pictures with us and the kids. When Joel preached on Thirty Days to Live it really opened my eyes. None of us know how many days we have on this Earth. My number one priority is to make the most of what time I have with my husband and kids. They are the most precious things in my life. They are such a blessing, a gift. I hope they know that there is nothing in this world more important than them.